I'm not that into celebrity love scandals but Robert
Pattinson and Kristen Stewart happen to be one of my favorite couples. They
just compare too well to shallow,
spoiled, materialistic and self-obsessed stars that are not worthy the media
attention. Robert is very smart, witty and down to earth and Kristen... she's
just so complex and enigmatic ( my opinion people, no need agree).
So when the photos surfaced of them being together
again after the cheating scandal I felt strangely relieved. Because in spite of
all the things that people wanted and expected them to do, they were able to
distance themselves from all the noise and listen to their hearts. Have any of
those "well-wishers" that poured dirt on poor Kristen noticed how
much weight she'd lost after the scandal? Or how lost Robert looked in his
post-breakup interviews? And how they can't keep their hands off each other in
the recent photos as if they are afraid to let go?
If it's you who were betrayed, you are standing
at the crossroads, and everybody around tells you to condemn the cheater for
life - stop listening! People share your sad facts but not your feelings. They
have no idea how much it hurts, this pain of not being together anymore, like
the big part of you has been torn and you are bleeding. There's no tranquilizer
to numb this pain and no revenge will ease your suffering. And deep inside you
know that the only way to stop this agony that's eating you alive is to forgive. Oh, people will judge for sure,
but sooner or later they will move on. And you will stay with that one person
you can't live without. You will put the betrayal behind you until it becomes
just a distant memory. But there's one thing you've learned - not to take
anything for granted anymore. Because true love turns from a blessing to curse
only when it's taken away from you.
I'm not talking about serial cheaters. Nor should
you forgive a spouse who is cheating because he no longer loves and respects
you. I'm talking about someone who is still in love but they make a mistake
just because they are a weak human being and they've succumbed to a temptation that
promised heaven but delivered hell. The kind of misstep when you look back and
ask yourself what was I thinking?
So Rob and Kristen, and other couples in a similar
position, will learn their lesson. They will realize the consequences of jeopardizing
their relationship due to a fleeting temptation. But they will also come out
stronger, more protective of their feelings, having experienced firsthand how
much there is to lose. They will celebrate every precious minute of being
together after those tormenting days of being apart. So just like them, I would choose forgiveness and second chances
over living an empty life, full of loneliness, mistrust and bitter regrets.
